We always look for explanations as to why things are the way they are, hoping that by understanding the reasons we’ll be able to fix things to get them the way we think they should be.
Many times the things that we find are simply explanations we’ve made up to help us deal with the situation in a way most favourable to us:
“I’m out of shape because I was too busy
building my career saving the world and taking care of my family to find time to workout”
However, often the real reason is much simpler than the one we come to admit to ourselves:
“I’m out of shape because I don’t workout regularly”
Note that the first statement immediately alleviates any guilt or pressure on yourself for your past or even current actions by explaining away the reason for the current situation.
The second statement is a fact. It doesn’t leave room for interpretation. It is what it is.
Spending time and energy looking for reasons can sometimes be a waste of time, as it is often simply a self-gratifying exercise. I mean, who doesn’t want to save the world and care for their family? You pat yourself on the back while excusing your current situation of being out of shape.
Instead of looking for reasons, look for actions. Your current situation is brought on because you don’t workout regularly. Who cares why you don’t? The fact of the matter is the only thing that needs to change for you to improve your fitness in this instance is for you to start working out regularly.
Don’t complicate the decisions that need to be made by looking for reasons or explanations to make yourself feel better about taking the easy way out, look for the cause instead.
You’re out of shape because you don’t workout regularly.
You’re overweight because you eat like crap.
You’re in a job you hate because you refuse to quit.
You’re not close with people because you’re scared.
You’re not progressing your career because you don’t do work that matters.
Find the direct cause of your situation and fix it your feelings will follow later. Don’t worry about the reasons or explanations, they really don’t matter at all.
“Successful people do the things that others don’t feel like doing”