When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.Brene Brown, Daring Greatly
I watched the video below just this morning that reminded me of how much we try to edit and curate our lives. We try to be what we’re supposed to be, and our increasing use of social media as a communications device is making easier today than ever before to appear perfect in front of all of our ‘friends’. We’ve strived to grow the size of our social circles at the expense of the depth of our circles. We choose to stay connected rather than develop true relationships that require real-time communication because it’s safer, less vulnerable.
We seek to minimize uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. Meaningful relationships require vulnerability because they involve humans who may or may not reciprocate our feelings. Humans who may be fiercely loyal or may betray us on a whim. Humans who may choose to stay in our lives and retain the connection or may leave with a moments notice to protect themselves rather than protect the relationship.
Its only through being vulnerable, the thing we’ve been taught to fear most, and not through perfection that we can truly connect with each another in a meaningful way.